Two sequential asks from my inbox (put in order):
Hi, there. I would like to ask some questions about your views as a Pro-choicer. I don’t have a clear position on abortion due to some information that I need to have. 1) What influenced your Pro-choice views? 2) When do you believe human life starts? 3) Is abortion safer than childbirth? Number 3 is a really important question because of cases of rape. If a woman got pregnant from rape, I don’t know if going through the abortion procedure or child birth would be worse. (Browned Eyed Girl)
To be continued… In cases of rape, I need more information if abortion is a benefit for rape victims. Would it be painful to go through the procedure? A friend of mine told me that his views on abortion in cases of rape was instead of aborting the fetus, it is better to torture and kill the rapist instead (he hates rape). I would be glad to have your reply. (Brown Eyed Girl)
I’ve been neglecting this ask for a long time because it annoys me. I believe I made it clear that I don’t really want to use this blog to debate or discuss or talk about myself, so I don’t know why you’re asking me any of this. I don’t want to talk about it because it doesn’t really matter what I think in this context. What has been really bothering me about this, though, is how badly she misses the point in the second ask.
Brown Eyed Girl, have you ever read a book called The Handmaid’s Tale? It’s a pretty good book that’s popular in pro-choice circles. Basically it’s about a horribly sexist dystopian society where certain women are used to breed babies like animals. One of the reasons why the women in that society put up with it is because they are taught that they are actually given greater freedom than women were back when the world was egalitarian. In one scene, a group of women are given a man whom they are told is a rapist (he’s actually a political dissident) to basically torture to death. They are told that this is better than the way it used to be.
That’s a false dichotomy and a seriously messed up way of looking at the world. Would you rather live in a society where you got to torture rapists or a society where you didn’t get raped in the first place?
Your friend seems to be under the impression that abortion after rape is used as some kind of revenge. That doesn’t make any sense! The reason why rape victims don’t want to be forced to have their rapists’ child is because that’s further violation of their body and makes the rape something they have to be reminded of every single day. Killing the rapist does not stop that from happening.
Rape victims don’t want abortion because of revenge. They want them because they want their lives back. Anyone can understand that. Your “friend” who “really hates rape” seems like he has a fundamental lack of ability to empathize with rape victims if he can’t get that.
And he’s really not too bright if he doesn’t understand that childbirth is painful. You asked me if abortion is painful and deadly as if you forgot that childbirth is inherently painful and deadly. (And yes, it is more likely to kill you. The pain comparison is a matter of personal opinion.)
Your friend’s attitude is just… creepy in its condescension.