Feel that pro-life love!

This link contains what is possibly the worst anti-contraception quote I’ve ever read.

I’ve seen a lot of anti-abortion people trying to redefine rape, but this LifeSiteNews commenter actually tried to define all consensual sex that they don’t approve of as rape.

For those having sexual relations within natural marriage and want to regulate births, there is natural family planning. Those having sex outside of marriage, be prepared for an unfulfilled life where sexual intimacy is surrounded by unnatural, unreliable, and deadly methods of birth control and is typically an expression of consensual, mutual objectification- which, for all intents and purposes is a form of rape.

I really don’t know what to say anymore.

"It’s my body" is a LAME excuse. Why?

uberconservative:

Its not your body. Its a seperate body with its own limbs organs and DNA. Its not you! It was your body when you chose to spread your legs and it was your body when you chose not to protect yourself and it was still your body when you chose not to get the morning after pill if you were raped or made a mistake. Were all those oppurtunities not enough for you? 

Deny people the morning after pill.

Shame them for not using the morning after pill.

Just a random thought.

Have you ever been debating someone and come to the conclusion that they don’t really know anything about sex?

In my arguments about abortion, I’ve been told many incredibly stupid things. One of my faves was the guy who felt that he needed to inform us that our vaginas (not the urethra or vulva) were for peeing through.

But one I keep running into recently is people telling me that I don’t know how babies are made. They explain that since sex can make babies, it is only meant for making babies and that any other reason is invalid.

I get the feeling that these people have never had sex. (The fact that the two that come to mind right now are very young helps.)

I get the feeling that they think the number of times their parents have had sex is the same as the number of children they have.

It’s weird.

gasptambourines:

sanityscraps:

lifesuhgamble:

There is a chemical in a girls’ brain is released only two different times in her life, when she has sex, and when she breast feeds her baby. This chemical emotionally connects her to another person for the rest of her life. Us guys? We only release this chemical when we bond with our children. So if you think sex is a game and go around fucking as many girls as you want, remember that you can mentally mess this girl up for the rest of her life. If you’re still friends afterwards then whatever, but she will always feel some sort of feeling for you, just because of the chemical.
It’s called Oxytocin, it’s actually released when a woman gives birth as well. But this is so true… sex is more than just a game, and this is a clear reason that explains why humans were only created to have sex with just one person. Doing it with multiple people will have a very strong negative effect on your relationship with the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I wish more kids knew about this… not that this should be your only motive not to have sex before marriage, but it is one of the most important.
Everyone should know this.

Though I’ll contest that we were “created” for anything, this psychological stuff is basically true, to the best of my knowledge.

lol using science to slut shame
cool

Actually, pretty much none of that is true. Both men and women have oxytocin. It’s released during both sex and masturbation.
And no, having multiple sexual partners does not mess you up mentally or make you unable to bond. Premarital sex isn’t inherently different from marital sex, either. And besides, if sex makes us bond so well, why do most people still have multiple sexual partners during their life? Why do people still break up?
It’s love that breaks your heart and messes you up mentally. Not sex. Being broken up with or betrayed is what makes people cynical and distrusting. I think the reason people mix the two up is because the two are closely intertwined and a lot of people (most people?) only have sex when they’re in a serious relationship. It’s correlation, not causation. Oh, and the fact that sexuality is treated as shameful in our society doesn’t help.
Sorry for this somewhat off-topic post, but I think it’s important that people know the facts when it comes to human sexuality. Telling people that there’s something wrong with them just because they’ve had more sex partners than you approve of does not do them any favors. It just makes them feel ashamed and hurt, if anything.
Oh, and here’s some other magical wonderful things that oxytocin does!

Uterine contraction – important for cervical dilation before birth and causes contractions during the second and third stages of labor. Oxytocin release during breastfeeding causes mild but often painful contractions during the first few weeks of lactation.

and

Sexual arousal. Oxytocin injected into the cerebrospinal fluid causes spontaneous erections in rats,[34] reflecting actions in the hypothalamus and spinal cord. Centrally  administrated oxytocin receptor antagonists can prevent non contact  erections, which is a measure of sexual arousal. Studies using oxytocin  antagonists in female rats provide data that oxytocin increases lordosis behavior, indicating an increase in sexual receptivity.[14]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin
Sounds like fun stuff.
It also seems to make people more ethnocentric:
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/11/science/11hormone.html
Oh, and as for how harmful premarital sex is? Here’s how it worked out for me:
No diseases.
No pregnancies or pregnancy scares.
Married my high school sweetheart.
Only ever had one sexual partner.
So maybe there’s something to that oxytocin thing (I think sex made us both feel closer) but as for the premarital sex being inherently harmful and ruining you for life? Not so much.
My first serious relationship involved no sex. There actually wasn’t any physical contact. But when he broke up with me I was devastated for a while and had a hard time trusting or loving anyone. I was almost too scared to enter into my current relationship thinking that maybe it was a rebound or it would just hurt me again. Love did that to me. Breaking up was what broke my heart. Not sex. (Happy ending: It’s all okay now because we weren’t right for each other and he was right to end it. I still talk to him and consider him a good friend. So that first heartbreak feels like the end of the world, but it’s not.)
So I guess the conclusion of this little ramble is that you shouldn’t feel ashamed, bad, or damaged by having premarital sex or multiple partners throughout your lifetime. Sometimes we think we’re in love and it’s going to last forever but it doesn’t. Sometimes we just want to have casual sex. That’s not inherently bad. You just need to always be honest about your intentions and make sure that you’re taking care your and your partner’s health. Don’t betray, mislead, infect, or unintentionally impregnate anyone and it’s okay.
…Wow, I had a lot to say. Sorry if that annoyed anybody.

gasptambourines:

sanityscraps:

lifesuhgamble:

There is a chemical in a girls’ brain is released only two different times in her life, when she has sex, and when she breast feeds her baby. This chemical emotionally connects her to another person for the rest of her life. Us guys? We only release this chemical when we bond with our children. So if you think sex is a game and go around fucking as many girls as you want, remember that you can mentally mess this girl up for the rest of her life. If you’re still friends afterwards then whatever, but she will always feel some sort of feeling for you, just because of the chemical.

It’s called Oxytocin, it’s actually released when a woman gives birth as well. But this is so true… sex is more than just a game, and this is a clear reason that explains why humans were only created to have sex with just one person. Doing it with multiple people will have a very strong negative effect on your relationship with the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I wish more kids knew about this… not that this should be your only motive not to have sex before marriage, but it is one of the most important.

Everyone should know this.

Though I’ll contest that we were “created” for anything, this psychological stuff is basically true, to the best of my knowledge.

lol using science to slut shame

cool

Actually, pretty much none of that is true. Both men and women have oxytocin. It’s released during both sex and masturbation.

And no, having multiple sexual partners does not mess you up mentally or make you unable to bond. Premarital sex isn’t inherently different from marital sex, either. And besides, if sex makes us bond so well, why do most people still have multiple sexual partners during their life? Why do people still break up?

It’s love that breaks your heart and messes you up mentally. Not sex. Being broken up with or betrayed is what makes people cynical and distrusting. I think the reason people mix the two up is because the two are closely intertwined and a lot of people (most people?) only have sex when they’re in a serious relationship. It’s correlation, not causation. Oh, and the fact that sexuality is treated as shameful in our society doesn’t help.

Sorry for this somewhat off-topic post, but I think it’s important that people know the facts when it comes to human sexuality. Telling people that there’s something wrong with them just because they’ve had more sex partners than you approve of does not do them any favors. It just makes them feel ashamed and hurt, if anything.

Oh, and here’s some other magical wonderful things that oxytocin does!

Uterine contraction – important for cervical dilation before birth and causes contractions during the second and third stages of labor. Oxytocin release during breastfeeding causes mild but often painful contractions during the first few weeks of lactation.

and

Sexual arousal. Oxytocin injected into the cerebrospinal fluid causes spontaneous erections in rats,[34] reflecting actions in the hypothalamus and spinal cord. Centrally administrated oxytocin receptor antagonists can prevent non contact erections, which is a measure of sexual arousal. Studies using oxytocin antagonists in female rats provide data that oxytocin increases lordosis behavior, indicating an increase in sexual receptivity.[14]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin

Sounds like fun stuff.

It also seems to make people more ethnocentric:

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/11/science/11hormone.html

Oh, and as for how harmful premarital sex is? Here’s how it worked out for me:

  • No diseases.
  • No pregnancies or pregnancy scares.
  • Married my high school sweetheart.
  • Only ever had one sexual partner.

So maybe there’s something to that oxytocin thing (I think sex made us both feel closer) but as for the premarital sex being inherently harmful and ruining you for life? Not so much.

My first serious relationship involved no sex. There actually wasn’t any physical contact. But when he broke up with me I was devastated for a while and had a hard time trusting or loving anyone. I was almost too scared to enter into my current relationship thinking that maybe it was a rebound or it would just hurt me again. Love did that to me. Breaking up was what broke my heart. Not sex. (Happy ending: It’s all okay now because we weren’t right for each other and he was right to end it. I still talk to him and consider him a good friend. So that first heartbreak feels like the end of the world, but it’s not.)

So I guess the conclusion of this little ramble is that you shouldn’t feel ashamed, bad, or damaged by having premarital sex or multiple partners throughout your lifetime. Sometimes we think we’re in love and it’s going to last forever but it doesn’t. Sometimes we just want to have casual sex. That’s not inherently bad. You just need to always be honest about your intentions and make sure that you’re taking care your and your partner’s health. Don’t betray, mislead, infect, or unintentionally impregnate anyone and it’s okay.

…Wow, I had a lot to say. Sorry if that annoyed anybody.

Yesterday and again today, anti-choice protestors had used chalk to write “messages” on the sidewalk in front of the office park where Dr. Carhart sees patients.  Among these were “Condoms Kill,” and “Only Natural Family Planning Works.”

Apart from the obvious fact that neither one of these “messages” is true—when used correctly, condoms prevent both unintended pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted infections, and NFP has a high user failure rate—it was clear that young people among the anti-choicers had bought these messages wholesale.

Wow. Those messages are even worse than I thought.

This is why we can’t have nice things.

stfuhypocrisy:

A medical problem to serve which purpose Hannity? Oh right, the choice to have sex.

stfuhypocrisy:

A medical problem to serve which purpose Hannity? Oh right, the choice to have sex.

This is the point where you really should just concede.
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This is the point where you really should just concede.

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thesaddestbitchinallofspectrum:

I think it’s strange how so many anti-choicers seem to have the idea that uterus bearers who choose to have an abortion must be idiots who are unaware of what they’re doing.  Actually, this study shows that even when the person views an ultrasound of their womb, they don’t change their mind on having an abortion.

Also, “a vessel for a mans relief”? I’m confused, are you delicately calling that woman a slut? Stop being ignorant and cop the hell on.

Wow. As though sex was all about the man’s pleasure and women just kind of sat there. This makes me sad.

Gentlemen, I know that you might not know a lot about lady-stuff, but we really do need pap smears and birth control and stuff like that. Some of us rely on Planned Parenthood for that.

This probably includes a girl that you have slept with. Keep that in mind if you’re bitching about how Planned Parenthood doesn’t deserve funding or that women just need to be more responsible.

Don’t talk trash about someone that’s helping you get laid.

(But seriously: Try to put yourself in our shoes for a while, okay?)

Gentlemen, it’s totally hypocritical of you to oppose Planned Parenthood and be having sex with women who rely on it. Your girlfriend has probably been there. If you want her to stop being irresponsible and leaching off the government, either break up with her, stop sleeping with her, or help her get birth control somewhere else.

Something I’ve been noticing lately since I upped my volume of Facebook postings on the issues of Planned Parenthood and preventative care is the number of my MALE friends who are displaying angry knee-jerk reactions to it. Many of them who are usually pleasant to me any other time have suddenly begun responding with nasty remarks such as “Well maybe women should just be more responsible instead of relying on the government to take care of them” or “I don’t want my tax dollars paying for other people’s abortions” or “We don’t need Planned Parenthood when you can just go see a real doctor” or “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.”  Interestingly, it’s never any of my female friends and acquaintances who make these remarks (probably because they know better from their own personal experiences).  So I have to wonder, why such the hostility towards women’s health issues from men who never have to experience having a Pap smear, using birth control, or having an abortion??  Where do they get off scoffing at an issue that they obviously know nothing about and that has nothing to do with them??  My biggest guess is that this mostly stems from plain old ignorance and an unwillingness to try to understand the day-to-day issues and experiences that only women deal with.  These guys do not have to see a doctor for routine penis/testicle exams every year, use hormonal medication to prevent pregnancy every single day, or worry about getting pregnant.  Therefore, they live in a world of blissful ignorance that allows them to ignore and scoff at the health issues that we women must deal with on a daily basis and does not demand that they step out of their own shoes and try to understand something that is outside of their realm.

These and other excellent points found in the article. Read the whole thing!

For this guy, it’s really not so much about fetal life as it is about policing sexuality and forcing his religious beliefs on others.
Context.

For this guy, it’s really not so much about fetal life as it is about policing sexuality and forcing his religious beliefs on others.

Context.